Parenting is Hard.
We all know it. We all swap stories of the same frustrations. We lament over lack of sleep, never getting a hot cup of tea and of having to share our toilet trips with toddlers in tow. BUT, that’s all we do. Talk, complain and empathise.
Last week I decided to change that.
I was talking with a friend about someone we both knew who has 9 week old twins and a (just turned) 2 year old. The usual things were said; “I don’t know how she does it”, “I can’t even imagine trying to feed twins”, “One 2 yr old is hard enough to chase after, let alone with twins in tow”
I thought about it all weekend. Then in occurred to me. Stop TALKING about it and DO something about it! So I did. I made some beautiful homemade meals, and on my way to work I delivered them. I checked it was ok, told her I was not going to stay, just popping in and dropping off.
And I did. I filled her freezer, got to cuddle and smooch her adorable babies. Then I left.
Later that day I got a genuinely grateful message from her husband. An exhausted, hardworking man who not only has the stress of working 12 hour days to provide for his family, but the stress of not being at home to help his wife.
A few hours of my time has given this couple over a weeks’ worth of dinners so they get to enjoy each other’s company and spend a bit more precious time with their beautiful kids. That’s pretty cool in my book.
We all know the proverb ‘it takes a village to raise a child’. We know it, we believe it, and yet we’ve lost the art of practising it.
Being a parent is hard;
How many times have you heard (or said) “You just have to get the baby to sleep”. Well guess what. If that were so bloody easy, there wouldn’t be a whole industry cashing in on it!
I think we’ve got it all wrong. We all know how hard it is to function when sleep deprived. It really is no wonder why it was used as a form of torture!
What would happen if we did what we could so that Mum (or Dad) got some sleep? Seriously, remember what your fist month, 6 months, and year was like. Imagine how different it would have been for you if someone you trusted was able to care for your baby, for even an hour so you could get some sleep. Not the kind where you sleep with one ear open, but real, solid, sleep.
So here’s my challenge to you.
I want you to think of someone you know with a baby or young child. Consider what you can do to make their week easier. Even better, ask them what you can do to help. Cook some meals? Do some laundry? Watch the kids while they get some sleep?
Then do it.
I promise you, you will make a difference to that person, and the joy it will give you will make you want to do it again.
Then do it again. And again.
Parenting is Hard.